A Child's Guardian is the Father, NOT the mother

Somebody, like my fellow blogger dhawanbm, initiates a debate as to who should be considered the Guardian of a child - the Father or the Mother.

My answer was the Father, but he (and some others) disagree. I don't know whether they do really believe that or trying to show themselves to be feminists, with some undisclosed intentions..., etc.

In my previous blog, "Father's sperm determines the sex and birth of a child", I have showed that it is the Father and his sperm which determines whether a child will get born or not, and if born, in which sex (male or female).

Here I want to put light on the Guardianship of the child.

Before birth, after impregnating, the Father bears the responsibility to sustain the mother and the child in the mother's womb. He extends his love, shelter, affection, physical and mental wellbeing, support and comfort towards both. He ensures safe and smooth delivery (depending on his financial and social ability), best resting and living place, best environment for the child to be brought up, etc. All these are the tasks of a GUARDIAN, not of a mere sex-partner.

The acts a mother extends to a child are NOT of a Guardian, but of a CARETAKER. I have every respect to the mothers. But, to be true and honest, the mother's role is of a caretaker, not of a Guardian. She gives refuge to the child in her womb implanted by the Father, she carries the burden supported by the Father, she bears all the pains and exertions in bringing up the child in the womb with the love and affection and shelter and sustenance of the Father, she delivers the child from her womb to this world with the help, finance, arrangement, love and desire of the Father and with this dependence of mind that the child will be named after it's Father and get legitimacy to the society with his name and existence.

The person who takes care of and upbrings a child or something is called a CARETAKER, not a GUARDIAN. And a caretaker never becomes the GUARDIAN or owner. The mother loves and concerns the child more than a caretaker, but in reality she does the work of a caretaker to bring up the child, take care of the child, to educate the child, and what not. I have NO intention to undermine the love she keeps in her for the child. But haven't you ever heard that these Mothers always, when there is any family tension or turmoil, points to the husband (the Father) and alleges and demands that she has done everything for his (the Father's) family and children. They NEVER say "OUR FAMILY, or OUR CHILDREN".

Moreover, after the birth, the Father gives the child a name and identity to survive, without which the mother cannot legitimate the child and establish the child as well as herself in the society.

So, the conclusion comes that the Father is the Guardian of the Child, NOT the Mother.

Thanks and happy blogging.

Md. Didarul Alam
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